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Paul Hughes hypnotherapist

By visiting this site you’ve already taken the first step towards ridding yourself of whatever it is which troubles you. No matter what the problem might be, you can be sure that you already have everything you need to set yourself free.

I believe that every person is blessed with great potential. All too often, however, we find our path blocked by difficulties which we imagine lie beyond our control. I’d like to help you to discover your true potential, to free yourself to achieve, to assist you in becoming the person you’ve always wanted to be, the person who has been within you all along.

The solution is at hand. Whether you’re stressed, depressed, suffering from low self-esteem, IBS, chronic pain, phobias or trapped within an addictive behaviour, hypnotherapists can help. Hypnotherapy also works with anger issues, weight loss, complex grief, sports performance, social anxiety, driving test nerves and so much more. Whenever a problem is complicated by our emotional response to that problem, hypnotherapy in the hands of skilled and well-trained hypnotherapists can bring relief. If you ever find yourself wondering whether the help of a hypnotherapist might prove useful, give me a call. Visit me for a free consultation and we’ll decide, together, whether hypnotherapy and hypno-psychotherapy might be of use to you.

I offer confidential, caring and professional hypnotherapy and hypno-psychotherapy, enabling people to make those changes which once seemed so difficult but which were always within reach. As a highly-trained hypnotherapist I can use hypnotherapy and psychotherapy to help you resolve any issues which trouble you. Contact me here and you’ll find the help by which you can achieve your goals.

One thing is certain: whilst we continue to do the things we’ve always done, we’ll only ever achieve the same unsatisfactory results. Why continue to suffer when peace of mind is just a ‘phone call away?

Contact me here .

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Tinnitus and Hypnotherapy in Berkshire and Oxfordshire.

 

Seven percent of the UK’s population have consulted a doctor regarding tinnitus. If you’re reading this because you are affected by tinnitus, you are most certainly not alone. There are a great many medical interventions for this condition but the sufferer can become so sensitive to the noise that even a significant reduction in its severity can leave him or her in distress

Tinnitus  is a medical condition but the degree of anguish it causes is due to our psychological response towards it. It is here where hypnotherapy and hypno-psychotherapy can help.

If I ask you not to think about your breathing there will be no alternative – you will think about your breathing and it will become deliberate rather than automatic. This will continue until you are distracted by the rest of this post.

It’s the same with tinnitus. Trying to ignore it, trying to not think about it is still thinking about it. You are paying attention and so it is amplified. Furthermore, your brain has become conditioned to respond to the noise in your ears with stress. You are aware of the noise and become stressed. Stress makes you more aware of the noise and this causes greater stress. Self-talk focuses around self-fulfilling phrases such as “it’s driving me mad” and “I can’t bear it.” It becomes a vicious circle. Severing this subconscious circular link between the noise and consequent stress is where hypnotherapy can help. 

Hypnotherapy can help people to reprogram their subconscious reflexes to various stimuli. You can learn to become less aware of the noise in your head. You can learn to become less stressed by its presence. Being less stressed by tinnitus will make you less aware of it. Being less aware will reduce stress. This now becomes a virtuous circle. Hypnotherapy can’t remove the physical causes of tinnitus but it can help you to live in peace. If you live in Oxfordshire or Berkshire and would like to find out more, contact me here.

Best wishes

Paul 20.5.12

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Hoarding and hypnotherapy in Oxfordshire and Reading

Hoarding seems to be one of the new TV crazes. There are now no end of TV programmes devoted to the compulsive collection of items which serve no purpose, which limit the hoarder’s ability to enjoy life to its fullest.

Hoarding stems from inecurity. Perhaps the hoarder has lost a job, a partner, a role. Whatever it is, possessions can be held onto. They’ll never leave or desert the hoarder. They are reliable and will never prove to be a disappointment.

Like anything else, hoarding works very well until it doesn’t work any longer. When the accumulation of possessions restricts the hoarder’s enjoyment of their home, hoarding has become a problem. When the hoarder realises that his or her life is crippled by the sheer weight of their possessions, the time is right for them to call upon the services of a hypno-psychotherapist. Hypno-psychotherapy can help build anew sense of meaning to life. Hypnotherapy can strengthen the ego when the time comes to face the loss of those possessions which once seemed so important. Hypnotherapy can set you free from the prison of your own compulsive hoarding.

When you come to accept that your lifestyle is causing you problems, please feel free to contact me here. Together we’ll find a way through it.

Until then, best wishes.

Paul 15.5.12

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Finding solutions with hypnotherapy in Berkshire and Oxfordshire.

Why was yesterday better than most days? What made it different? What did you do yesterday to make it better and how could you do it again tomorrow?

There’s nothing wrong with you that what’s right with you can’t fix. You already have all the answers to your difficulties. Sometimes you simply need a little help to realise that.

There are times when we need to ponder on what has gone wrong and there are times when we can focus upon solutions instead. Contact me, here, and you’ll begin to find your own answers.

You already know the answers. Learn to listen to your own better judgement. 

Best wishes

Paul 12.5.12

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Choosing a Therapist: Hypnotherapy in Wallingford, Reading and Oxford

I spent some time, this afternoon, looking at hypnotherapy websites. I was struck by how confusing it all must seem to somebody seeking help. There are “Advanced Hypnotherapists,” “Curative Hypnotherapists” and hypnotherapists of a thousand other hues. How is anybody supposed to know which to choose?

Perhaps you could judge a therapist by the number of professional associations to which they belong. Some hypnotherapists have a great many such associations and their logos pasted on their sites. There is the General Hypnotherapy Register, The Hypnotherapy Society, The General Hypnotherapy Standards Council,  The National Register of Advanced Hypnotherapists, The Association for Professional Hypnosis and Psychotherapy along with a dozen others. How is anybody to know which of these ensures that its members are trained and supervised to a high standard?

There is a short cut. The question to ask is “which professional association campaigns for regulation of hypno-psychotherapy as a profession?” Which of them is prepared to submit its training courses and code of ethics to a nationally enforced set of standards? 

I chose to train with the NCHP. Graduates of this training school belong to the National Society of Hypnosis and Psychotherapy. The NSHP is one of very few such professional associations which actively campaigns for the government to regulate hypno-psychotherapy. Its courses are accredited by the UKCP (the foremost professional body for counsellors and psychotherapists) and it isn’t afraid to fight for regulation of the profession. We are determined to see that clients aren’t short changed or ill-served. We’re aware that the reputation of our profession is imperilled by the lack of any real professional accountability. The UKCP and NSHP want to see this changed. 

It isn’t difficult to open a school in which to train “hypnotherapists.” There’s nothing stopping anybody from doing it tomorrow. You can invent your own course, philosophy and qualifications. You can churn out as many therapists as you can recruit and charge, safe in the knowledge that the general public will be unable to tell them apart from a well-trained and ethically supervised professional. That is, of course, until someone entrusts them with their secrets and emotional well-being.

Once you have established that a therapist is well-trained, belongs to a responsible professional body and is supervised and insured, the next step is to speak with them in person.

Much of therapy’s success is down to the quality of the relationship established between client and therapist. So, find out if you feel comfortable with a therapist before agreeing to begin therapy with them. I offer a free face-to-face consultation in order to allow my clients to feel confident in their ability to work with me. Others offer telephone consultations. Talk with some of the therapists in your local area before making your choice.

Lastly, be aware that there are several hundred different schools of psychotherapy. That’s a great many ways in which your issues could potentially be tackled. Does your local hypno-psychotherapist restrict himself to one approach? Is he or she integrative? What are his areas of expertise? What is his or her favoured approach? Will their approach suit your preferences? Will they tailor their therapy to your needs or simply ask you to close your eyes before reading out a sub-standard one size fits all script? Ask, enquire, find out. 

If you’d like to ask me these or any other questions, please contact me here.

Best wishes

Paul 8.5.12

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Change your perspective. Hypnotherapy in Wallingford, Reading and Oxford.

The human brain is designed to recognise patterns. What’s more, when a pattern appears useful, the brain positively searches for it. This goes part of the way in explaining why some people see only the good in others whilst some see the bad. 

It can be easy to lock our minds in a search for the negative. We think badly of our lives, of the world, of the people around us and so our brain is ever alert – recognising what we expect to see and rejecting the exceptions to the rule – our rule.

It follows, therefore, that people who see themselves as unlucky are simply failing to recognise those opportunities which present themselves. There are people who always seem to land on their feet, for whom everything seems to go just fine. Perhaps they simply seize the day, take a chance, make the best of what they have. Perhaps we only spot the good things which happen to others in an unconscious effort to make the bad things which happen to us seem even worse. We see, in effect, what we want to see.

How is it working out for you?

You can retrain your mind to be more positive. It takes a little time, it appears a little wooden at first, but it brings results. Firstly, consciously count the number of times you can see one person helping another. Look out for such examples and make a mental note of them. Secondly, sit down at the end of every day and write down the three best things which happened to you. Lastly, as I explained in a previous blog post, change a pattern. Do something routine in a new way. It can be as simple as dressing in a different order. Keep it up for a while and you’ll start to notice how your view of life changes.

Contact me here, if you’d like any help with changing the way you look at the world, or yourself.

Best wishes

Paul 6.5.12

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Change one thing, change them all. Hypnotherapy in Wallingford, Reading and Oxford.

Much of what we do is completely automated – we don’t even think about it. We drive the same way to work every day, so used to the journey that we can complete much of it without really paying a great deal of conscious attention. We buy the same lunch. We follow the same routine. 

If you’re looking to make a change in your life and are finding it difficult then perhaps the head-on approach isn’t best. Why not try something else? 

A “pattern interrupt” can do for your life what the throwing of a pebble into a pond can do for its surface. It needn’t be anything big at all. Examine the way you dress tomorrow morning. The chances are that you put the same garments on first, the same arm in first, the same leg. Why not consciously do something different? Put one sock on and then a shirt, for example. Mix it up! Take a different route to work. Use a different form of transport. It’s risk free!

Making a conscious change in one area of your life, however small, can lead to changes elsewhere. The end results can be extremely significant.

What would it cost you to try?

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Paul 4.5.12

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Bravery, intelligence and heart. Hypnotherapy in Wallingford, Oxford and Reading.

 

Tin Man, Scarecrow and Lion spent the entire film searching for a heart, a brain and courage.  As you know, they had them all along and simply didn’t know it. My clients always have those things they need too. Hypnotherapy and hypno-psychotherapy shows them so.

“There’s nothing wrong with you that what is right with you can’t fix.”

Find out how to achieve the changes you wish to make to your life, by contacting me here.

Best wishes

Paul 2.5.12

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Ageing, living and hypno-psychotherapy in Reading, Wallingford and Reading

The loss of our youth can be a difficult process to face but ageing is still the only way in which we can avoid dying young. 

Nobody would volunteer to leapfrog a healthy youth into an infirm old age but since there is no way to avoid old age, save by failing to reach it, it is necessary for us to find a way in which we can face it with dignity, positivity and grace. 

What nature takes from us in terms of youth can be repaid with wisdom, experience and true happiness. There is an art to growing old, according to Marie de Hennezel, and we can either find a way to benefit from ageing or condemn ourselves to having a miserable time of it.

As Epictetus wrote, humans are “disturbed not by events, but by their opinions about them.” Think, therefore, of old age as being a desert before the grave and so it will seem. 

Nonethleless, even Marie de Hennezel, an optimist when discussing the prospect of her old own age, admits to having faced a crisis and a mini-depression upon reaching her 60th birthday. Facing old age requires a re-assessment of life and our place within the universe. If you do find it difficult to adjust, and you would be far from alone, please do consider contacting me, here, in order to discuss how hypno-psychotherapy can help. Too many people waste their old age in living their deaths. Why not choose to live, for the rest of your life, instead?

Best wishes

Paul

28.4.12

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Patience, Desire and Hypnotherapy in Reading, Oxford and Wallingford

“He that will have a cake out of the wheat must tarry the grinding.” Shakespeare.

Today we can make cakes from a packet. We can order a book, from Amazon, in an instant. Celebrity can be won within a few weeks, thanks to television. What happened to patience?

Look ten years younger with a single cream! Get it today, now, last week! Lose the weight right now! Society seeks instant gratification, happiness now. Our lives must be perfect, and fast.

When everything is apparently so easy, the slowness of life’s progress can become maddeningly frustrating.

Today’s obsession with quick results means that we live forever in the future, never taking the time to appreciate what it is to exist in the present. We expect results, instantly, and so forget the virtues of patience and moderate expectations.

You will probably never acquire the perfect body. Perhaps you will never attain perpetual bliss. Life will always have its ups and downs and complete happiness is always further away than an advert will tell you.

It wasn’t so long ago that humanity’s dreams lay in seeing a bountiful harvest, in having children survive to maturity and in escaping ill-health and infirmity. We have largely achieved these aims. Perhaps we should be grateful for what we have, rather than continuing to tread the wheel of endless consumerism.

Life is short and life hangs by the most slender of threads. Perhaps it’s time we all began to enjoy what we have, that little bit more, rather than lust after things which probably wouldn’t make us any happier anyway. Perhaps we should begin to accept that those things which really matter take time to nurture and see to fruition.

Best wishes, today and always,

Paul 24.4.12

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Regret and Hypnotherapy in Wallingford, Reading and Oxford.

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“Holding onto regret is like dragging the weight of the past with us, everywhere we go.”

There will always be things we wish hadn’t happened. There will always be things we’d rather not have done. Many of those things will have had negative consequences upon our lives. Why punish yourself twice? Why spend a lifetime in regretting what can’t be changed? A regret is a little grief, a pining for a choice which we might have made but didn’t; a wish that things could have been otherwise.

Well, you know and I know that what has happened can’t be changed. The only thing which can be changed is the way in which we allow events in our past to affect our present and future. 

“Be willing to have it so. Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.” – William James

To regret an action or event is to defy its reality. It’s like bashing your head against a brick wall. The wall will always win.

You can learn to see things differently. At the very least, a negative experience will contain a lesson. Often, if we try, we can even find a silver lining in the darkest of clouds. Always begin, however, by accepting what can’t be changed. This will often, in itself, be enough.

Hypnotherapy and hypno-psychotherapy can help you to move on after a negative experience. If you’re finding it hard to let go of what has happened, consider giving me a call. We can discuss how you might begin to move on with life.

Best wishes

Paul  23.4.12

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Age, change and our endless potential. Hypnotherapy in Wallingford, Oxford and Reading.

 

Marie de Hennezel is one of those rare writers who can paint the most stark circumstances in the most vibrant colours. Her most famous work: “La mort Intime”  teaches the beauty of life through the eyes of those who are soon to lose it. The lesson is simple. It is never too late to gain an appetite for life, no matter what fate throws in our path.

I’ve just finished reading her most recent book: “The Warmth of the Heart prevents your Body from Rusting.” It’s an instruction manual on how we might face the inevitability of ageing with grace, gratitude and vivacity.

Here’s a passage from the book which I found particularly touching.

“I knew a depressive, unpleasant man of eighty who changed completely after spending time in an Intensive Care unit. He thought he was dying, and when he emerged from the unit after two months, those around him didn’t recognise him! He confided that he had not known how much his family loved him, despite his impossible personality, and he made the decision never to complain again and to thank heaven every day for the joy of life.”

If a man can undergo such a profound change on his “death bed,” we can all change no matter what our problems may be. We can change and we can grow until our final breath. If you can’t see how, yet,  contact me here and we can discuss how hypnotherapy and hypno-psychotherapy can help you become the person you’d like to be.

It’s never too late.

Best wishes

Paul 16.4.12

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Asperger’s Syndrome and Hypnotherapy in Wallingford, Reading and Oxford.

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April is Autism awareness month in the USA and I’d like to wish the ASD community and their loved ones all the best at this time.

My eldest daughter is an aspie and as she grows I become increasingly aware of the difficulties she faces, and will always continue to face, in the neurotypical world. 

I’ve discovered, through personal experience and study, that hypnotherapy and hypno-psychotherapy can be incredibly powerful in helping those on the ASD spectrum. AS individuals have a great many skills and coping strategies but can sometimes struggle with knowing quite how to transfer these abilities into other areas of their lives. Hypnotherapy and hypno-psychotherapy can help with forming practical solutions, engendering confidence and more. 

If you’re reading this because you have AS, let me reassure you of one thing: you have all the attributes you need in order to  overcome the challenges of life in a neurotypical world. 

If you’d like to meet with me so we can discuss how I can help, please contact me here.

Best wishes

Paul 14.4.12

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The phobia of dentists and hypnotherapy in Wallingford, Oxford and Reading.

I very much doubt that anybody positively enjoys going to see their dentist. A sense of unease is perfectly natural and reasonable. A phobia of dentists, however, can leave people terrified at the very thought of such a visit. 

Avoiding the dentist altogether is not a viable solution. Dental problems are far better prevented than cured and regular visits, as we all know, are essential.

Hypnotherapy and hypno-psychotherapy can free you of your phobia. I can’t promise that you’ll skip merrily onto the dentist’s chair, for that wouldn’t be natural. You could, however, come to face your dentist with confidence and ease. In most cases such a phobia can be resolved within a few sessions. 

Contact me, here, to learn more about hypnotherapy and its efficacy with phobias.

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Paul 12.4.12

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Weight loss and hypnotherapy in Reading, Oxford and Wallingford.

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A little while ago I was at a party and was helping to prepare some food in the kitchen. Guests came in to greet the party’s host. Within seconds of each guest’s arrival the greetings turned into a conversation about the course of the host’s most recent diet. Things were progressing slowly, it was explained, although he’d decided to have a break from dieting this week, for various reasons.

And there we are. This is why the host in question was finding it difficult to lose weight. Diets formed a source of conversation. Every visitor to the kitchen was already aware of his goal and praised his determination. Diets were also a means of storing brownie points which could later be exchanged for periods of eating a fuller diet. Food became a reward, reluctantly accepted. It was a holiday, after all.

Losing weight is always more complicated than simply diet and exercise. We have a very complex relationship with food and simply focussing our efforts upon the behavioural aspect of our diet does little to address the motivations behind it. It’s this which leads to yo-yo dieting and a lifetime of struggle. 

And so, to lose weight for good it’s necessary to establish why we eat too much to begin with.  Resolve the issues behind your over-eating and your weight will disappear of it’s own accord. It’s not always simple. It won’t always be as fast as you’d like. If, however, you want to both lose weight and keep it off, it’s the most effective way.

Contact me, here, and we can discuss how hypnotherapy and hypno-psychotherapy can help you attain the waistline you desire.

Best wishes

Paul 9.4.12

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 Resolved! Hypnotherapy offers hypnotherapy and hypno-psychotherapy in Reading, Oxford, Didcot, Wallingford, Pangbourne, Henley, Thame, Wokingham and in all surrounding areas of Berkshire and Oxfordshire. Home visits are available on request.

 

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Worry, anxiety and hypnotherapy in Reading, Wallingford and Oxford.

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“Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but it doesn’t get you anywhere.”

We all know that anxiety and worry is unproductive – even if there is a genuine cause lurking behind it. Anxiety becomes, however, a self-sustaining loop and it becomes, after a while, hard to tell whether we are worrying about x, y or z or are merely worrying about being anxious. Whatever the original reason for anxiety might be, it’s very rarely the case that worry will be of any use in resolving the situation. Anxiety is paralysing, robbing us of our ability to think clearly, rendering us unable to act. Anxiety was “invented” in order to assist us in escaping short-term and acute physical dangers. The mental and physical cost of chronic anxiety, however, can be extreme.

Don’t let anxiety rule your life. Whatever the reason, whatever the cause, you can restore your sense of calm and proportion. Hypnotherapy and hypno-psychotherapy can help you marshal your strengths in order to overcome your fears. Contact me, here, to discuss how we can work together to do so.

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