Bullying can be so destructive. You could, however, help your child undo the damage
I find few things sadder than to see beautiful children reduced to tears by the behaviour of bullies. Forty four percent of school children report being bullied and most of those suffer this experience every week! Many victims, unfortunately, are on the autistic spectrum and the majority of my clients with asperger’s have suffered bullying at some point in their lives.
I see such cases on a regular basis and at any one time I will have one child client in Thame, Reading, London, Wallingford or Oxford whose life has been made a misery by bullying.
They are, however, the lucky ones. Those who sit in my therapy rooms are at least getting help. Hypnotherapy is great for kids and I absolutely adore helping them in restoring their sense of pride and self-esteem. To see them leave me for the last time, feeling happier and more secure in their own selves is one of the best things ever.
Is your child talking about bullies at school? Does he or she need help?
Bullying is what your child says it is. If it hurts, it’s doing damage.
The Lord of the Flies is a story about a group of boys marooned on a desert island. Over time a part of the group becomes savage and hunts those who hold onto their humanity.
By the end Ralph is the only one left of the civilised boys. He flees for his life and seems destined to be caught and killed when he rolls onto the beach and before the feet of a British sailor.
He is saved but as he attempts, breathlessly, to explain what is going on the sailor laughs and dismisses it all as ‘fun and games’.
Bullying will not toughen your child up. Bullying will not give him character. Time may not heal those particular wounds. It isn’t and shouldn’t be an ‘inevitable part of growing up’.
Around twenty children kill themselves each year due to bullying. Children who have been bullied grow up to be far more at risk of anxiety disorders, depression, suicidal ideation and self-harm. The incidence of alcoholism and other substance misuse in adults bullied as children is also greatly increased. Your child’s youth is that period of time in which their sense of self is being painfully drawn together from all of the available evidence. Bullying is a powerful cause of lowered self-esteem and emotional resilience. It doesn’t always go away when the bullying stops.
Hypnotherapy could help your child to leave the effects of bullying behind
Children are often keen to hide the extent of any troubles they experience at school. The culture against ‘snitching’ remains strong in schools and children are often determined to avoid any appearance of weakness. Unless you keep a close eye on them you may not even know that something is wrong.
The damage, however, is sinking in and spreading throughout your child’s conception of self.
I see children who have become so traumatised by bullying that they become shy and withdrawn even outside of school. Friendship withers, school results begin to sink and depression sinks in.
Don’t wait to seek help if your child is showing the signs of being affected by bullying. Acting quickly to find help will give your child the best possible chance of limiting and reversing any psychological damage done.
How can hypnotherapy help?
I help my clients in two ways. First of all I help them to come to the realisation that their experiences say nothing about their value as a human being. Bullies, in fact, go on to have worse life chances that those who are bullied. The bullied victim is often randomly selected by the bully and there is nothing wrong with them which led them to be targeted. When children begin to realise this their increased air of confidence can often help to reduce their chances of being bullied further.
This might include helping children to overcome depression and anxiety disorders. This might include helping them to overcome social anxieties, insomnia, nocturnal enuresis, school refusal and more. I have experience of working with all of these.
I also give my clients strategies with which to cope with any further bullying and intimidation. I help them to develop ways of rendering themselves invulnerable to psychological attacks upon them.
I use hypnotherapy to help my clients to overcome bullying and to realise that they are all valuable individuals whose potential is enormous. They have a blank canvas of a long life stretching into the distant future and with a restored sense of self-belief, they can achieve great things. I love working with children and teenagers. What they achieve whilst working with me will help them to build better lives for themselves, their families and the future generations to come.
If you live in or around Reading, Wallingford, Oxford, London or Thame and have a child in need of help then please do consider giving me a call. I’ll be glad to help and, as I said earlier, hypnotherapy is a fantastic therapy for children and adolescents. You could call me on 01865 600970 / 01183 280284 or 07786 123736. You could also email me at firstname.lastname@example.org or contact me using the form below.