Christmas is the season of giving, but lose your own self and depression will surely follow.
It doesn’t sound like much of a holiday, does it?
If you don’t stop it then your mind and body will force you!
I use hypnotherapy every week in order to help women to realise that they can’t just keep on giving. At some point they have to put themselves first. For my clients, of course, they’ve already pushed themselves too far.
They’ve already found that giving and giving and giving only leads to depression, anxiety, resentment, bitterness and a whole unhealthy host of possible coping mechanisms.
You can’t put yourself last forever and expect to get away with it. Sometimes you have to be selfish in order to continue being able to give. It sounds a contradiction but it isn’t. Its essential.
How are you managing to cope?
Do you find yourself drinking too much? Have you gone back to smoking? Comfort eating? Are you finding that each day seems an increasingly heavy burden? Do you sometimes just wish that you could retreat under the duvet and leave the whole world to sort itself out?
If so then you’re in danger of becoming yet another victim of people-pleasing perfectionism. It’s time for you to give yourself a break, to let go of those crucifyingly onerous expectations and to rediscover your own self.
If you don’t then anxiety, depression and a whole Santa’s sackful of other problems are heading your way!
Yes, it’s difficult! Why can’t you just cope?!
There’s no medal for being Wonder-Woman!
If the demands of Christmas, on top of all the usual responsibilities, are driving you to the edge and beyond, it’s going to be up to you to row back and rethink. Only you can make those changes happen.
These habits of putting everybody else above your own basic needs can creep up on you. Sometimes they’re a product of our past. Some people spend a lifetime trying to emulate a perfect mother. Some people learned to please, please, please in order to placate a difficult parent.
You could learn to let these habits go! Hypnotherapy could help you.
This doesn’t mean that you have to become selfish, uncaring, a bad mother, employee or wife. It simply entails rebuilding your own sense of self, your own identity. It means rediscovering YOU!
Your family and employer needs YOU, not some exhausted, wreck of a human being. If this means saying ‘NO!’ a little more often, if it means asking for help a little more willingly, if it means letting go of the past then you can do it! Hypnotherapy could help you!
Every week I use hypnotherapy in Reading, Oxford, London, Wallingford and Thame in order to help women to rediscover themselves, to rebalance their lives and to be happier, healthier and more fulfilled individuals.
You’ll love it and your family will thank you for simply allowing yourself to be you!
Let’s make 2018 a better year. Give me a call and we can get started!
Oh, and I wish you a Merry Christmas!