Hypnotherapy could help you to cope with the end of your relationship
I’m going through a spell of seeing several clients for issues relating to the end of their relationships. It seems to be a difficult time for relationships in Reading, London, Thame, Wallingford and Oxford. Covid 19 certainly didn’t help a good many relationships. The stress of it all, along with too much time together, has ended many a marriage. So many relationships which would have flourished in normal times were stillborn because of the pandemic. So many marriages have foundered under the additional strain. We now have the strain of the cost of living crisis and I expect this to take its toll also.
Some people can cope with the loss of a relationship. They are able to process their grief in a healthy manner and move on. I work with many, however, who cannot. Depression, despair, anxiety and even suicidal ideation can affect those for whom a straightforward grief process proves impossible.
The one thing these people have in common is that they imagine that they should be feeling differently. They refuse to expect the validity of their emotions. They demand that they should be helped to feel happier, less hurt, less alone, more this, that and the other.
I also offer hypnotherapy online for divorce related issues, using vsee, zoom or whatsap. Please get in touch for more details as to how this works.
Feelings can’t be banished, indefinitely
I’m afraid to say that feelings don’t work like this. You can’t just wish them away. You can drink them away. You can use drugs. You can delay them.
You can’t, however, keep them away indefinitely. ‘Sorrow floats’, as the Voice of the Beehive once sang. You can’t keep a cork down forever. One day your feelings will force themselves to the surface and you’ll just have to deal with it.
Feelings are nothing more that chemicals (adrenaline, cortisol, endorphins and the like) which cause physiological responses. You can learn to block them but the chemicals are still there. One day they’ll overwhelm your ability to pretend they don’t exist.
Let’s not allow it to get to that point. If you’re finding it difficult to move through this difficult stage of your life then there are ways in which you could learn to make it easier for yourself. There are ways in which you can learn to navigate the grief process in a healthier manner.
Hypnotherapy could help you to cope with all of those emotions which come as a result of the end of a relationship. Hypnotherapy and mindfulness can help you to allow them to pass. Hypnotherapy could help you to cope with the grief and to move forwards. You can learn to get past this and you will. I’d be glad to help you.
It’s never going to be fun to go through a divorce
But it isn’t going to be as bad as you think. You can learn to experience them without all the negative labels. You can learn to experience them as if you’re standing alongside them. You don’t need to wallow in them or spend weeks, months, years, unable to function.
Mindfulness and hypnotherapy can help you to appreciate your strengths whilst confessing to your vulnerability. Why shouldn’t a divorce or any other form of break up be a painful time?
Why should it be easy? Feelings are hurt. Things have been said. Dreams seem wrecked and life will never be quite as you once expected it to be.
None of this means, however, that you won;t be able to recover and to build a new and better life. You simply have to go through the bad times in order to get back on track again.
You can do it and I’ll be glad to help you!
I have worked with a good many people, helping them to come to terms with a new way of living. I have helped people to let go of obsessive thoughts about their former partner. I have helped people to recover from being cheated upon, abused, neglected and more besides.
You can learn to let these feelings go, not because I offer a magic wand but because you can learn to navigate emotions healthily. You can also learn to repair the damage to your self-esteem.
That’s a difficult adjustment to make.
Life will go on and new dreams will emerge and strengths will be forged in the fire of adversity. You will learn to move on. You will learn to trust and to love anew. New dreams will form themselves from the ashes of the past and everything, in time, will assume its rightful perspective.
Allowing yourself the luxury of feeling bad will make you feel better. That sounds weird but it’s how a former client once described this process to me. Suppressing emotions can be effective, for a while, but it’s costly. Let those emotion come and they’ll pass all the more easily.
I could help you. Contact me to find out more
The world may feel as if it’s ending but a better future is waiting. It will take time to reach and you’ll have to travel through some dark times. Together, however, we’ll find a way.
Break ups are tough. You needn’t, however, make them tougher than they need to be. If you’re finding things heavy going then give me a call. You could call me on 07786 123736 / 01183 280284 / 01865 600970, email me at paul@resolvedhypnotherapy.co.uk or else simply use the contact form below. I’ll be glad to talk to you and to explain how hypnotherapy and mindfulness could help you.
Best wishes
