Are you living life looking to some point in the future or with half of your attention fixed firmly on the past?
All that time living in the future! He was catastrophising and robbing his present in the attempt to resolve his ruminations about what lied ahead.
In time he learned to live in the ‘now’
He knew I was a therapist and so asked for my advice. I explained how I’d work with a client with such a problem and he set to work. The progress he made was remarkable.
He learned to enjoy the time he had left, to focus on living so much in the present that the future was left to deal with itself. One day his walking days would be finished. That day hadn’t yet come and so he began to make the best of the strength and abilities he had remaining.
Sadly, this wonderful man isn’t with us any longer. I was proud to see him enjoying his last years so fruitfully. He gave me permission to use this story so that others would see that wonderful things can happen, even when facing uphill odds.
Living in the present. This is something which children and animals can teach a human adult. We’re rubbish at it. We’re always drifting off into different periods of time, wondering if we’re prepared for this, that or the other in the future or wishing that something hadn’t happened in the past.
My grandparents, in their 90s, seemed to live their entire lives in the past.
They spent their time in reminiscing about what had been, dreaded the awful world which they imagined would be left to their grandchildren and great-grandchildren and feared the end.
I don’t feel as if that’s a valid way in which to live life. I can see how easy it is to fall into the trap but we can begin training ourselves to treat life differently, starting now.
Imagine you are on holiday. The first three quarters of your time away is done and there are only a few days left.
What will you do?
Will you spend the last few days cursing your return to work, looking back over how much you enjoyed the first half of your holiday and wishing that you could do it all again?
Would you, instead, do your best to pack in as much pleasure as possible into those precious last few days? If so then you’re taking the decision to live ‘in now’.
You can re-learn what it is to live right now
Wouldn’t it be great to learn to be a little bit better at enjoying what we have, where we are, who we have around us right now!? At some point, where we are right now was where we desperately wanted to be and now we’re there we seem unable to enjoy it.
Well, I use hypnotherapy and mindfulness in London, Reading, Oxford, Wallingford and Thame to be more aware of their own selves and their surroundings. I teach them to begin re-examining everything, within and without, as if it were for the first time.
Learn to be more present in the here and now
I use hypnotherapy in Reading, Oxford, London, Wallingford and Thame in order to help people enjoy their lives through being more firmly rooted in the present. Using hypnotherapy, mindfulness and other interventions I help them to place the past in a better perspective and to leave the future to take care of itself.
This doesn’t mean we don’t have to plan for events such as retirement, of course, it simply means that worrying about things which haven’t happened yet is a fruitless exercise. If it happens it happens and you’ll cope with it. If it doesn’t happen then you’ve wasted a whole lot of time and energy in needless worry.
Thoughts of past, present or future, of life and death, of this life and the next, are transcended in the superabundance of the now. Time and timelessness coalesce: this is the moment of eternity.
Thus our every act is a matter either of giving life or taking it away. If we should perform each act with total absorption we give life to our life. If we do things half-heartedly, we kill that life.”
When we detach ourselves more fully from the worries of tomorrow or the regrets of yesteryear, things fall more easily into a more manageable perspective. Problems seem less bothersome, self-recrimination declines, peace can begin to reign once more.
Doesn’t that sound like a goal worth striving for? Wouldn’t you like to invest your time and effort into learning how to live life more fully than has, perhaps, been the case to this point?
Hypnotherapy could help you. I could help you. Get in touch and we’ll discuss how.
Let go of yesterday, stop worrying about tomorrow and today will be more pleasant. The whole of the rest of your life could be a series of today moments.
There, I’ve said it before and Philip Kapleau says it again. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow can’t quite be relied upon. All we have is the present. Make the most of it and who knows what problems will fade into insignificance if we only absorb ourselves in the here and now. Contact me, here, if you’d like to discuss these, or other issues, in greater depth.