For some people hypnotherapy is a way to resolve issues which originate in the past
Many people find it essential to understand their pasts before rebuilding the present and focusing on the future. Hypnotherapy is awesome for this, if the hypnotherapist is properly trained. I see people who want to understand their pasts in Reading and Oxford every single day or the working week. Hypnotherapy, in the hands of a fully qualified psychotherapist, can do a great deal to bring about healing in this way.
Hypnotherapy helps people to see themselves and their pasts differently. It can help such people to overcome traumatic events which have long since festered. It can help them to let go misplaced feelings of being to blame or somehow not good enough. It can assist in forgiving caregivers, where this is appropriate and desired, for making mistakes in their parenting. I have helped many people in Reading, Oxford, London, Wallingford and Thame to resolve their issues and move forward in such a manner.
For others, however, solutions are more important than a problem’s roots.
For other people, however, this isn’t a suitable path to take. Some things have no significant past to them. For example, if I became afraid of spiders just because my mother happened to be afraid of them too then there’s not much of a history to resolve. Dredging through the past in some vain attempt to find what therapists sometimes call an ‘initial sensitising event’ can prove to be a fruitless waste of time. Even if we assume that such an event can be found, there’s limited amount of use in recalling it into the present.
Perhaps you just want to leave the past behind you
For other people the past is something they wish to escape and it’s not something they wish to revisit in any shape or form. Where this is the case it’s for me to respect their wishes. I might wish it were otherwise but it is for me to have sufficient flexibility to work on things in a different way. Often people will change their minds and be more willing to look at the past as they grow in confidence in the present. To begin with, however, another approach is necessary.
I don’t want to re-traumatise people or force them to revisit things they’re not ready to face. Hypnotherapists who do this risk causing more pain and anxiety if they try. People face their pasts when they’re ready, willing and if it’s necessary. I may explore the desirability of dealing with things from the past but if it’s not the right time to do so then it’s simply not the right time.
No, for many people a different approach is needed. For these people I might adopt a form of solution focused hypnotherapy (though there are others too). We know where we are, we know where we want to be and we work together to use your strengths and qualities in order to achieve the goals identified.
Sometimes this is the best way and the most humane way in which to work. Sometimes, if there are nasty things lurking in the past, working on the solution can resolve those things without ever having to face them directly at all.
I don’t hold to any particular methodology in my work. The right approach for you is the right approach for you. We will discuss the possible approaches and if a solution focused form of hypnotherapy proves to be that approach then so be it. If it’s not then it’s not.
It’s a gentle and positive approach. No ruminating or upset involved!
It’s a positive approach, a simple approach and hypnotherapy helps you to see how to do it, to enlist your resources in order to achieve it and to imagine the result in such a way that your success becomes almost inevitable.
We analyse what does work for you and we work out how you can do still more of it. We establish your strengths (you do have them!) and use them to work towards your goals. We establish a step-by-step approach towards building a better future, recognising and building on success and learning how to take lessons from failure instead of feeling defeated.
This approach, together with the warmth and professionalism with which I work, seems to do a great deal of good for my clients. They do all the work, I help them to see how and where to begin.
I construct a personal approach for every client, there’s no ‘one size fits all’ recipe, no theoretical straight-jacket. I see you as an individual and I’ll treat you accordingly.
Get in touch and tell me what you’d like to achieve. I’ll suggest some possible ways forward and we’ll go from there.
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However you choose to contact me, I look forward to hearing from you.
Solution focused hypnotherapy is particularly effective with clients on the autistic spectrum
This strategy can be particularly effective with those of my clients with asperger’s syndrome. These people might have no real problems in their past and therapists who assume that all problems originate in childhood might have real problems attempting to squeeze ASD clients into their model of psychology.
No, clients with AS sometimes have a simple difficulty with socialising and social confidence because of the very nature of high functioning autism. Solutions, in these cases, are a better focus than the vain search for sensitising incidents.
Solution-focused hypnotherapists are sometimes heard pronouncing that their approach is the only approach. I have sometimes heard them denouncing other approaches as being worthless and so forth. I would advise you to discount such claims. If all you have is a hammer, everything begins to look like a nail. The best therapists are those who can build relationships with their clients whilst being flexible in their approach. One size most certainly does not fit all.
If you live in or around Reading, Oxford, Wallingford, London or Thame and think you’d like some warmly professional help then please do consider giving me a call. I’d be glad to talk with you. You could call me on 07786 123736 / 01865 600970 or 01183 280284