Is your sex life becoming a misery? Vaginismus, anorgasmia or dyspareunia? Hypnotherapy could help you!

 If you’re reading this because you’re experiencing painful sex, sex which consistently fails to lead to orgasm or other conditions such as vaginismus then the likelihood is that you’ve already exhausted the medical options. If you haven’t yet then please do so. It’s always important to eliminate any possible medical causes before assuming it’s psychological and seeing a therapist.

hypnotherapy and sexual issuesHypnotherapy can do wonderful things for women experiencing problems with sex and yet hormonal and other medical issues are best dealt with by the appropriate professionals.

If you have read this page, consulted with doctors, and found nothing to be physically or hormonally amiss then it’s now time to follow the psychological route to your solution.

If you live in or around Reading, Oxford, London, Wallingford or Thame and wish to resolve the issue once and for all then please do get in touch. Hypnotherapy could be the solution you’ve been searching for. Plenty of women experience problems like this and so you are very far from being alone. What’s more, as people emerge from two years of lockdowns and restrictions, these problems are very likely to see a rise in their incidence. After all, singletons who haven’t been able to forge new restrictions, during the years of Covid 19, won;t have seen their problems disappear by themselves. If anything they’re likely to have become worse.

Life is too short to spend any longer consigning your sex-life to the trash-heap. There’s every hope that you could learn to put the problem right and to enjoy a happy life, between the sheets and out.

I have worked with female sexual issues on a good number of occasions over the past ten years. It’s not often the initial reason why women come to see me and yet, if it’s something which bothers them, my female clients will come to trust me enough to open up about such personal matters. 

Others have put these problems to bed before. You could do the same.

I also offer hypnotherapy online for women’s sexual issues, using vsee, zoom or whatsap. Please get in touch for more details as to how this works.

Female sexual arousal is a very complex thing indeed!

We men have plenty of potential problems in this department, that’s for sure, and I see plenty of men who experience difficulties with arousal. Few people, however, appreciate that the lack of arousal in women can lead to significant problems too.

Vaginismus is an involuntary tightening of the vaginal muscles which leads to penetration being difficult, painful or plain impossible. cites research which shows up to five percent of women suffering from the condition at some point in their lives.

For some the fear of its recurrence leads to a self-fulfilling prophecy. Anxiety is your biggest enemy if this condition is ruining your sex life and yet getting rid of anxiety can be much easier said than done. Becoming anxious about anxiety, as the prospect of sex rears its head, only makes things worse. 

You’re not a machine. Your emotional state has a massive impact upon your ability to enjoy sex

vaginismus anorgasmia dyspareunia and hypnotherapyOf course, vaginismus in itself can lead to painful sex, otherwise known as dyspareunia, but there are other possible psychological causes too.

Performance anxiety, body dysmorphia, a lack of a sense of connection with your partner, a lack of libido, a history of sexual abuse and the fear of closeness (or indeed of sex itself – gynephobia) can all lead to sex being a dreadfully unpleasant, or at least a somewhat disappointing experience.

Anorgasmia, the failure to reach orgasm, can also arise as a result of other problems mentioned above. Perhaps these problems aren’t present. Perhaps lubrication is fine, perhaps there’s no issue with any other aspect of sex and the problem is that you just can’t seem to finish. 

Of course, if these problems affect you then you’re going to be still more nervous the next time, thus worsening the problem. It’s the nastiest of vicious circles and it can seem impossible to imagine a way out.

Learning to relax around those feelings of nervousness will prove to be key to allowing that same nervousness to dissipate. Learning to deal with the causes of this problem, whatever they may be, will help to drive this problem into extinction, once and for all.

Hypnotherapy could help you put sexual problems to bed!

and hypnosisHypnotherapy is tailor made for all kinds of anxieties. It can help to uncover hidden, half-forgotten blocks within your unconscious mind and free them, in order that you can let go of these problems, once and for all.

Hypnotherapy can help you to relax and enjoy the experience of sex with your partner.

Of course, as a fully trained psychotherapist I’m also able to use hypnotherapy and psychotherapy to help you to resolve any problems you might be experiencing with relationships in general.

If you’re scared of commitment, find it difficult to ‘let yourself go’ or relax in the moment then hypnotherapy could help you to let these fears go. It could well be that these problems, if you experience them, lie behind your problems with sex.

Sometimes a religious background can cause people to see the enjoyment of sex, or the act itself, as a source of shame. I’ve worked with such things before and you truly can learn to let them go. Others have done so, before you, and you can too.

If you’re unfortunate enough to have suffered abuse in the past then please be assured that I have worked with this a great deal too. It can be dealt with in order that you could be free to enjoy your right to lead a happier and more-fulfilling sex-life.

Please get in touch if you’d like to let go of vaginismus, dyspareunia, anorgasmia or gynephobia

I use hypnotherapy in Reading, Oxford, London, Wallingford and Thame to help women resolve these problems once and for all. If you’d like to be free of them then perhaps now is as good a time as any to act.

I understand that these aren’t necessarily the easiest topics to discuss. However, if you’ve tried the medical route, CBT and so forth then perhaps hypnotherapy will prove to be the answer. Besides, I’ve dealt with all of these things before and I truly believe that the vast majority of my clients find me an easy person with whom to discuss even the most sensitive of issues.

You could call me on 07786 123736, email me at or else use the contact form at the bottom of this page. Whatever you do, don’t just let this problem drift on miserably for another week, month or year…

I look forward to hearing from you.