Is it Mothers’ Day or Hallowe’en? If it’s hard to tell then hypnotherapy could help you!
Ah, Mothers’ Day. It’s that lovely time of year when little children have the opportunity to thank their mothers for the unconditional love and selfless care they have showered upon them. Thanks heaven for mothers and motherly love. What a wonderful thing it is!
It’s a lovely thing indeed, except when it isn’t. My diary is full, at the moment, of grown men and women who still bear the scars of parental neglect, abuse and indifference. My hypnotherapy practice in Reading, Oxford, London, Thame and Wallingford is full of people for whom Mothers’ Day is a day of difficulty, stress and regrets.
Emotional abuse is far more common than people once thought
Reading, London, Oxford, Wallingford and Thame are full of people who fight with the feeling that they’d rather have been born into a different family, a family in which their mother had been better able or simply more willing to express and demonstrate love, care and affection.
Every year they either have to trudge to the parental home, burdened by a sense of duty they shudder to shoulder. Every year they swallow intense misgivings and go through the pretense of having something to be thankful for.
For others their mother is no longer with them and they struggle with a repressed sense of injustice, rage and unfairness whilst fighting back unwanted feelings, tears and anger.
There are all kinds of reasons to find Mothers Day an uncomfortable experience. There’s no reason to feel bad about this. It’s your reality and that’s OK. Perhaps, however, you’d like to find a way of being freed from those emotions. Perhaps you’re simply sick of being depressed, anxious or angry because of the way you were treated when you were younger.
It’s fine to feel this way. Nobody is duty bound to honour their parents.
Parents are faced with an immense responsibility when their children arrive in the world. Infants have no sense of self and they certainly have no means of deciding that they are worthy or otherwise. It’s their parents who provide them with a sense of self-esteem and lovability. Some parents manage this wonderfully. Others can’t, don’t or won’t.
It’s the biggest lottery on the face of the planet. Do you start out in life with the optimum conditions for emotional health or do you set out with massive weights on your legs, mind and spirit?
It’s not your fault.
If your parent leaves you feeling bitter and unpleasant conflicts of love and hatred; if your parent leaves you having to smother that inevitable love with feelings of hatred and anger then it’s their fault – not yours. You have nothing to be sorry for. You don’t have to continue feeling this way.
You could work to let it go. Hypnotherapy could help you. After all, it has helped plenty of people in the past. Why not you?
Many of your strengths are the result of growing up and surviving within a difficult environment.
You are steel forged within the fire of a troubled upbringing. You possibly don’t realise this, yet. it’s possible that you focus only upon those feelings of weakness and inadequacy which have dogged you for years.
If it helps then be assured that I have been where you are now. I have lived with those same feelings and I have found a way through them. If I could so it then you certainly can. Perhaps we could work together in order to achieve such a goal. It certainly can’t hurt to give it a go.
If you need help to realise your immense beauty and strength then there are plenty of ways in which you could begin to go about it.
How could you cope with the feelings which Mothers’ Day evokes?
- If you’re a parent yourself then you could bask in the love your own children give you and count the ways in which you’ve chosen not to repeat the sins of your own mother.
- You could write out a list of your own strengths and achievements and ponder upon how you might build upon these into the future.
- Close your eyes and picture the people who surround you and who provide you with the love, admiration and respect you feel your mother failed to give you. Remember the times they said nice things about you and let yourself feel good about this.
- Spoil yourself! Do whatever it is which relaxes, invigorates and interests you. Your mother may not deserve any thanks but you DO deserve love, care and respect. Give it to your own self. Declare today to be daughter or son day.
What would you like to be doing on son or daughter day? What could you do to give yourself a special treat? Could it be a lovely meal out with those people who deserve your time? Could it be a spa day or even a short mini-break to some beautiful place somewhere?
If you put in some effort this year, in order to create a wonderful experience, then perhaps future Mothers’ Days could see your memories take you back to whatever it is you were doing on this one. ‘Ah, Mothers’ Day, that’s when I went to St Lucia!”
Wouldn’t that be nice!?
Perhaps you can’t afford to go to St Lucia right now. Still, I bet there’s something nicer you could be doing, rather than spending the day feeling angry and sad.
Hypnotherapy could help you to let it all go
I use hypnotherapy in Reading, London, Oxford, Wallingford and Thame to help people to let go of feelings which they no longer need to suffer. You made it. You survived. You’re a winner! You no longer need to feel bad about yourself and can afford to let those defences down. I could teach you how.
Hypnotherapy could help you to undo the damage which your childhood did to you and hypnotherapy could help you to see that you no longer need to carry all that pain with you for a moment longer.
You deserve better than a lifetime of repressed hatred and anger. You can be free of it. Your mother may not deserve it but you do. Your relationships deserve better, your children need you to be the best person you can possibly be, free of all the rubbish you’ve had to drag around with you for far too long. It’s time, is it not, to let it all go. Hypnotherapy could help you.
If you live in or around London, Oxford, Reading, Wallingford or Thame then give me a call and we could discuss how you might begin going about it. I’ll be glad to hear from you.