Your children will thank you for having hypnotherapy

Children are as strong and as fragile as eggs

If you drop an egg from an aeroplane and can guarantee that it will land fully on the pointed end then that egg will never break. Tap an egg on its side and it will shatter. Children are a little like eggs. They are infinitely strong and resourceful and yet they are so incredibly fragile at the same time.
 
At the time of writing this I am training to become a child and adolescent psychotherapist. I am working with children in Reading, Oxford, London, Wallingford and Thame and have seen how important parents are to their children. 

Children are a sponge to their environments anxiety hypnotherapy

Day after day I sit with people who are troubled because of experiences they endured as children.  What’s more, these people aren’t all the children of wholly abusive or neglectful parents.

No, some are simply the children of parents who were overly stressed and a little too snappy at times. Others had a parent too preoccupied with the illness of a loved one and who thus had little energy for their needs.

Some saw the marriage of their parents collapse and lived through the aftermath of mutual recriminations and bitterness.

Many children grow up with parents who are anxious themselves or a little too prone to outbursts of anger. If you are an anxious parent then you will teach your child that the world is a dangerous place.

Your child is watching you all day, every day. If you show any fear then your child will conclude, consciously or unconsciously, that situation A, B, C or situations A to Z are dangerous. Anxiety is contagious from parent to child. Your child is listening and watching. Your views of the worls are all important to a child who looks to you for guidance. Anger is contagious too. Show your child that anger is an acceptable tool and they will learn to use it too.

So is the belief that alcohol, shouting, drugs or hiding away is the solution to a problem.

Sometimes a throwaway comment on the part of a stressed or unthinking parent can sink deeply into the psyche of their children and fester unnoticed for years.

You really don’t have to be an abuser to harm the self-esteem and acceptance of your children. 

Eggs are incredibly strong. Take an egg and place one end in one palm and press upon the other end with the other palm. You will find it almost impossible to crush.

Children are a little like that. Children go floppy when they fall over, protecting them from injury. Children are physically resilient, more so than we imagine. Children are also incredibly fragile, however. They look to us in their early years as a source of self-esteem and worth. One careless comment, borne of stress, could shatter years of patient child-rearing.

You may not be an abusive parent but is your stress doing some unseen harm?

hypnotherapy for childrenYou may feel as if you can cope with the stress in your life. You may believe that your drinking is just on the right side of alcoholism. You may consider that your children are too young to remember the rows and the disputes within an unhappy marriage. 

I’m afraid that you may be wrong.

Children are incredibly perceptive. They are built to follow our cues. One scream at the sight of a spider and a child may become arachnophobic.

Children are like sponges and absorb the emotions of others around them. You may not think they notice. They do. I’ve worked with enough of them to know this is a fact.

Your children deserve the best possible you and so, for that matter, do you. If you’re just coping then you can learn to thrive. If you’re getting by then you can do better. Resolve your stress, your phobia, your drinking or smoking for yourself and for the sake of your children. Hypnotherapy will help you and your children will never know how much they have to thank you for. 

Contact me for more information of how I can help you to be the best possible you, in order that your children can grow up to be everything they need,want and deserve to be.